FAQ
All right, for starters, I’ve found most FAQ (or Frequently Asked Questions, for those less Internet-initiated) pages to be largely disingenuous: they’re present at the website’s creation, and typically read like an interview between an unknown (often fictional) being and the page’s author. Then it really gets me wondering: just who’s asking these questions, again? And nevermind their frequency. That being said, I chose to break from the secret convention and create a page that only contained actual questions asked most frequently. Just keeping it real. (Thrilling, I know. No thanks needed. Actual answers, of course, vary.)
Q: Wait, you mean you want me to pay you to dominate me?
A: Yes, I’m a professional offering a service, for which I expect payment of an actual monetary value. I know, really, it’s simply utter and complete madness!
Q: Isn’t it kinda wrong to hang out on dating sites if you’re just looking for clients?
A: It certainly would be, except I’m also looking for friends. I’m sure there will be plenty of people I meet who will never become my clients. That’s perfectly fine. However, they shouldn’t then start seeking free services. That just annoys me to no end.
Q: I think you’re amazing. Would you date me?
A: As thoughtful as you are, and generous the compliment, no. Friends and clients. Lovers? No. Romantic or sexual encounters of any kind? No. I’m a professional Domme. I know what I will and won’t do; the question is — do you?
Q: But, I don’t understand, Mistress. Why won’t you date me?
A: Because I have a personal slave, and truth be told, he makes me very, very, very happy. I’m sure that you’re most sincere when you proclaim that you could make me so very happy, too, but the fact remains: I’m just not looking for that. Please, don’t try and convince me otherwise.
Q: But I want to be your slave.
A: Excellent. Have you looked at my rates? I first offer my new clients domination (and training) online, as well as over the phone. I also, very gladly, do my own brand of domination therapy, in which we thoroughly discuss why you so desire the things that you do. It doesn’t matter if you’re new to the lifestyle, burning with curiosity, or know exactly what it is that you want, and want to be in the skilled hands of a professional who can deliver that to you. Of course, my time is money; fortunately, my rates are straightforward and reasonable.
Q: You said you work online?
A: I do. It’s a bit cheaper than my phone sessions, and being a writer, I really do love it.
$55 for the half-hour, and $90 for a full hour. I know, it’s kind of a steal, considering you’re dealing with a very talented roleplayer, actress, and writer.
Q: Do you have a preferred method of payment?
A: I do. Paypal. Send it straight to my regular email address. You can also just click on the paypal links that are at the bottom of the Services page. You can use credit cards to pay even if you don’t have a Paypal account using those links. You can also send a money order to the PO Box that’s listed on my contact page. Make the money order out to “Common Sense Press.” Make sure to include who you are with the money order so that I can connect the payment to the person.
Q: What do you enjoy most in a slave or submissive man, Mistress?
A: Intelligence and strength of character. You’re my kinda guy if you’ve read through my website to where you fully know that I’m a professional, don’t want to waste my time, and would enjoy starting a working relationship with me. It can be a beautiful thing.
Q: But I want something real, Mistress. I can’t get that from a professional, can I?
A: I’ll be straight with you. You absolutely can, but you must be willing to work at it. The good ones are just like any other sort of relationship not punctuated by money. Every relationship is some form of exchange; those that are more communal are typically the strongest, but their strength comes from trust and reliability, honesty, and genuine liking. If I don’t like you, I’m just not going to work with you. It’s as simple as that. If I want to work with you, it means there’s already some sort of genuine interest there: I want to help you achieve your goals, and I care about your progress. No offence meant in the least, but can you really say that of most of the other professional Dommes?
Q: What would cause you not to like me, Miss?
A: This is a multi-part answer, and a very, very frequently asked question. First: have I sent you to my website? Either by email, through a chat or conversation — it really doesn’t matter. Furthermore, have you come back to me and commented on my website? If so, I’m going to assume you know two things by continuing conversation with me:
- You’re aware that I’m a professional, (that’s key) and you won’t waste my time if you don’t wish to work with me — for whatever reason; those are your own, and I don’t fault you for them in the least.
- Even though you know I’m a professional and my time is valuable, you politely decline my services (whether only at the present time, or for the duration of our acquaintance) but would like to carry on a friendship, have friendly intellectual debate, etc., which I’m fine with. (Again, I enjoy making friends and networking.)
Now, let me make something abundantly clear: if 2) is what you’ve chosen, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, attempt to otherwise indirectly involve or use my good nature to further your masturbatory fantasies. I’m not going to have cybersex with you, and if you wanted to session with me online, you’d not be corresponding with me off the potential client list. Got it? Good. Nothing — and I mean, nothing gets me more angry, fed up, and just absolutely sick of dealing with a person than that sort of rude, immature behaviour. Make sure that that’s never you, and we’ll be golden.
Q: Would you collar me? A: Gladly. Again, professional, check the rates, all that song and dance. Just because you’re helping me to keep a roof over my head, (and, thus continue to keep you good and collared) doesn’t mean it’s any less real or significant. I’m helping you, and you’re helping me. Isn’t it nice to be of benefit to each other?
Q: How about hold my key? Do you do that? A: Refer to the above. Key-holding services are in similar regard to collaring.
Q: Yes, but do you actually care about the boys you collar, Miss? A: Absolutely! Otherwise, why would I even do so? I have genuine compassion, regard, and concern for the well-being and happiness of each and every one of my clients. I want to work with you on those things that you need most, and then push you beyond what you think you can take. I want you to grow with me. Be more than you think you can, or ever thought you could. I’ll be there holding your hand, each step of the way. Don’t worry. (You want to tell me that’s not real? That’s not significant? That’s not genuine?) I simply don’t know any other way to be. I offer you what I am; whether or not we make a good fit (again, working relationship — professionally-speaking) is another thing entirely.
Q: What if I decide I no longer need your services, Miss? A: Another multi-parter. We’ll begin with the obvious: nothing is ever binding, and all is always consensual. Of course, I’ll first ask why; if you’ve found a personal relationship to take the place of our sessioning and working relationship — I’d only ask that you continue to share your progress in those areas of your life with me, (to make sure that you’re going along the way you should be, and really getting what you need) and then wish you the best. I’d also love to hear from you from time-to-time, though that’s not a requirement by any means. Remember that bit about enjoying having friends? It’s real! Should it be about something you’re unhappy with, or an area in which you’re feeling unfulfilled — that means we need stronger communication. I do require each of my clients to always keep the lines of communication open with me — frequently sharing thoughts, questions, ideas — whatever comes to mind that they’d like help with, or feel a need to discuss. Domination therapy isn’t just domination, after all; it’s the most therapeutic, enriching, holistic form of its kind! And very, very exciting.
Q: Where can I learn more about Domination Therapy? A: Besides loving all questions I get about it, I’m planning on putting up more information about it on my website soon. Essentially, hoping to answer a few questions before they’re even asked. What I can tell you is, as a client of mine in this regard, you’ll be getting the most thorough, personal, and complete treatment I have to offer as a Domme. This is a journey we take together — you learn, and so do I. Through working with you, I learn even more about myself, and together we discover what’s going to be the best way to session, what sorts of fantasies we’ll be exploring, and most of all — anything and everything that comes of them: that means, all of your thoughts, feelings, memories, new fantasies, fears, questions, concerns, and goals that will no doubt emerge as we continue through various exercises and types of sessions. Just like anything, it’s a definite process, and we’re all works in progress. I have to confess, I enjoy working with my domination therapy clients the absolute most. It’s the penultimate of what I have to offer.
Q: I’d like to pay you for a strap-on play session?
A: Absolutely not. That’s a violation of California’s Prostitution Law. Furthermore, it’s only something I do with my personal slave. You can read more about my thoughts here.
Q: Is there anything else you’d like to add here, Miss? A: Not right now, but be warned. This is a living document. If you don’t check back on occasion, you may miss something. Then I very well may have legitimate reason to be angry with you. And you wouldn’t at all like that, now would you? (I confess, that last one did turn out a bit like the disembodied / anonymous Questioner found most often in these sorts of pages. Alas, perhaps it’s not such a poor method of creation after all.)
