I am a dominant woman.

I don’t play at it, I don’t simply fantasise about it. I just simply am.

I was the vampyre queene while the other little girls were playing at being faerie princesses. Though I could perform the many arias of Briar Rose to perfection, it was Maleficent’s litany to Prince Phillip on the hopelessness of ‘true love conquering all’ and the delivery of her own power-play that captured my heart. Needless to say, I was always a little bit dark. The many personae in my head as a child, (which led me to believe I was mad before I realised I was actually just a writer) ranged from powerful, dominant women to the seasoned villainness and the experienced seductress. No ingenues, naive faire maidens, or delicate flowers for me. The only princess whom I admired was Leia; I often found myself fantasising about being the one seductress mastermind capable of making even Bond succumb and surrender. (Ridiculously hot kinky sex to follow — and of course, he’d live to fight another day. But his body, his heart, his soul — those would be mine.) But Fleming never made my fantasy come true. Naturally, I never quite gave it up. I kept on writing, kept on dreaming, kept on creating tales of mystery, espionage, suspense, murder, even science-fiction and fantasy — with daring, empowered women and the strong, devoted men who were helplessly under their spell, though powerful in their own right.

Before deciding upon becoming a writer, I spent a good many years as an actress, in theatre, putting my own spin on classic characters and inventing my own. They were oft a bit too controversial, though, and I didn’t much like how the femme fatale was always a villainness. It became evident at a young age to me that confident women, expressive in and proud of their sexuality, who enjoyed the power it had over men were either evil or easy. Please! I set to break that very stereotype in my mid teenage years with very satisfactory results. Drawing many — giving in to none. My willpower was supreme. I wanted you to want me; whether or not you could have me — well, you’d learn soon enough. Of course, it wouldn’t stop you from wanting me.

This led to yet another reinvention of self, bringing another facet to the forefront; something in which I’d dabbled since my youth. Psychology. Namely how it expressed itself abnormally, and mixed with human sexuality. I became fascinated with the criminal mind — how it worked, and why. I studied the darker side of man, breaking it carefully down and applying my findings to my own theories and psychological experiments. I became equally intrigued with the development of pathology, deviance, and how the two were alike and separate. I’d suspected I was kinky. I knew I was dominant. But I’d yet to discover how it really had impacted my psyche — and wouldn’t until much later, how I could help others better understand themselves along their own journey to self-discovery.

After my own trials and tribulations, the many facets of me — the actress, the writer, and the psychologist — culminated in the practise of domination therapy. Submissive men, in their own right, drew something out of me that others did not. At first, I was a bit confused — as the reaction was never necessarily the same. This one brought out the mothering influence, while that one made me very angry and cruel — and another still caused me to feel great affection and a sense of completion. One commonality among them all, however, was that I desperately wanted to help them — share with them my experiences, learn of their own, and be the dominant force in their lives this hidden and disowned aspect of their psyche had been deeply missing.

I’ve been asked — ‘Why Roulette?’ Besides being largely British and French, (a definite contradiction, indeed) Roulette is an accurate depiction of how I am as a Domina. I am a woman of many faces, and it’s through exploring these personae that I become better acquainted with my own needs and desires. To make it a bit easier, I’ve come up with a simple list of the personae most commonly triggered in my dealings with submissive men (as well as others in BDSM). Different people simply bring out different aspects of me. While I cannot guarantee you one over the other, I will take your requests into consideration. But do bear in mind, if you’re deeply craving a good tongue-lashing from the Governess and then Queen is what your peasant-self seems to bring about, you ought to count yourself lucky enough to be worthy of servitude.

Now, just to keep it all fair and balanced, I enjoy a solid conversation ahead of time with any prospective client, so that we may see exactly from where you’re coming, what road you hope to be taking, and how I may best help you get there. Despite whichever personae I choose to engage, I’m still a counselor at heart, and your best interest are paramount to me. You’re in good hands. This is all about power exchange, remember? I appreciate the trust in me that it already took to approach a working relationship, and I won’t be reckless with it. While a professional, I do have genuine concern for the well-being and progress of each of my clients. Perhaps, I’m a bit different that way from other Dommes. I simply know no other way to be. For many men, submission is a precious gift, and I am always appreciative.

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